I have been in and out of chat over the years and enjoy it as a way to fill in nonbusy times. I don't mind whispering but just as way around the clutter of the main room. Happily married over 20 years but sadely no children. If you do not take the time to have at least some comment about yourself i will not take the time to answer your whisper. BTW; yes my husband knows i chat and no, don't bore me asking what i am wearing i mean really does it matter?